this is a paper i wrote that was inspired by this book...enjoy...ps...it may seem long, but i think it has some verry good infromation..
Clara Barton was such a shy little girl, and would scarcely talk to anyone. When she was only eleven years old her brother fell off their barns’ roof. He was in bad shape, but she watched every move of the doctor, and asked to help with his care. She ended up taking over his care for the next two years! By the time she was seventeen she was a schoolteacher, and later, went onto found the Salvation Army (Harris 32). Throughout history many teenagers have impacted out country in a big way because they rose to higher expectations.
America in so Many Words is a book that dedicates itself to word origins wrote a little bit about the word teenager, and what it means to our society: “In the first part of the twentieth century, we made a startling discovery. There were teenagers among us! Until then, we had thought of people in just two stages: children and adults” (Barnhart 233). isn’t it interesting that before 1941 teenagers were expected to act like adults, but after we created a term that allows some leeway, all of sudden the expectations have slowly been declining, further and further. “Society doesn’t expect much of anything from young people during their teen years-except trouble (Harris 36).”
At a San Francisco elementary school, an experiment was conducted by a Harvard University professor, Robert Rosenthal, and an elementary school principal Leonore Jacobson:
“In the experiment, Rosenthal and Jacobson gave an intelligence test to all of the students at an elementary school at the beginning of the school year…they randomly selected 20 percent of the students - without any relation to their test results - and reported to the teachers that these 20% of students were showing "unusual potential for intellectual growth" and could be expected to "bloom" in their academic performance by the end of the year. Eight months later…they came back and re-tested all the students. Those labeled as "intelligent" children showed significantly greater increase in the new tests than the other children who were not singled out for the teachers' attention.” (HESM)
These results clearly show that students are capable to rise to whatever expectation that is set before them. At the end of the experiment they wrote a book about it called Pygmalion in the Classroom. It touches on the topics of students expectations, and how teachers play a big role in how well these students succeed. After the experiment they concluded that: “the change in the teachers' expectations regarding the intellectual performance of these allegedly 'special' children had led to an actual change in the intellectual performance of these randomly selected children.”(Rosenthal 47) They did the same test at a college in Portland, Oregon, and got the same results (Harris 40). Teenagers can have more expected from them than most would assume. An article on About.com talks about teens and their level of expectations.
The author, Denise D. Witmer has a major in child and social psychology, and is the author of two books. The first few lines of her article can be summed up like this: as a pre-teen you are expected to clean your room (with a little help from your mom or dad) correctly take phone messages, and be able to manage your allowance. As an actual teen you are expected to do ALL the things on the pre-teen list plus: keep gas in your car, a daily and weekly chore, and teens should also be responsible enough to be “Marking special dates and plans on the family calendar or planner.”(
Witmer) Wow! What a list of hard jobs. Teenagers have such a hard life, how do they live up to such high expectations? Really? This is what society expects of a teenager! And the author also says “Please do not feel that your teenager should be doing all of them.” When we hear the level of expectations that our younger generation is striving for,and how low they are, it’s very disappointing. And it gets even worse. In 2005 Time Magazine wrote an article on “kidults” (Harris 50) A kidult is someone in their twenties. How far are we going to stretch the age of immaturity. When were taught to be immature and not grow up, it doesn’t really help us become mature adults.
There is hope for the “teenage” condition. When students hear the word teenager, they can get wrapped up in the idea that a passive and apathetic lifestyle is acceptable. There are some youth among us who are choosing to have a more industrious life for themselves. Zach Hunter was only fifteen years old when he started a “loose change to loosen chains” at his school. This school project collected money to essentially free modern-day-slaves in foreign countries (Hunter). The project got bigger than he expected, and eventually went nationally. He has spoken at conventions, and concerts, and even at the white house. It’s even more amazing because he has an anxiety disorder (Harris 188)!
Meet Alex and Brett Harris. They are seventeen year old twin brothers, and have launched the largest blog on blogspot.com. the blog focused on “a teenage rebellion of low expectations” It was so big that they had to put in on a website. This website was started by teens for teens, even the website designer was a teenager (Harris 22). Their promotion manager, Heidi, was the only adult, at the age of twenty-four. At the end of the new website launch they actually met Heidi face to face and found out the she was only a seventeen year old girl. They wrote this:
“Our first reaction was this, Oh man, I can’t believe we asked so much of her! Then we caught ourselves. Wait a second! We thought she was twenty-fur, so we had expected her to be responsible as if she were twenty-four, and she rose to meet those expectations and acted like she was twenty-four.”(Harris 20)
It’s true, students can achieve a more successful and productive way of life. Many student s have read the book Do Hard Things, written by Alex and Brett Harris, and have come to realize that they are able to do more than society has come to expect. Brittany is a seventeen year old, who has learned that the word expectation is not a synonym for boring: “Who ever said that doing hard things isn’t fun?! On the contrary. I feel I missed out by not aiming toward more hard things. You’ll find more joy in doing [hard things] …than a trip to the mall or a night at the movies will ever bring.”
There are simple things a teenager can do in order to raise their expectations.. In the book Do Hard Things, Alex and Brett give teenagers a few pointers about how to go about doing so:
“Three strategies for stepping higher:1. Do what is hard for you.2. Be known for what you do (more than for what you don’t).3. Pursue excellence, not excuses. (Harris 92)”
This advice is easier said than done when the world is telling you to do something different. When the authors, Alex and Brett, say to “do what is hard for you” they mean to do something that you would never usually find yourself doing. If you’re shy, jump out of your comfort t zone and talk to someone you’ve never talked to before. If you know of a bully, and are too scared to step into a fight, do it, step in. They explain that doing hard things, though, doesn’t always have a positive outcome. If you step into a fight, the bully will just start beating you up too. And if you talk to someone you’ve never talked to before, they might not be welcoming to conversation.
Their second point is just saying that you should do something! Too often we are recognized for what we are not doing. Joe’s the guy who doesn’t do his homework. Sara’s the girl who doesn’t respect her parents. Frank doesn’t talk to people below his “social status.” Alex and Brett say to flip those around. So, Joe will now be the guy who spends hours on his homework until he knows he has done his best. Sara will be the girl who treats her parents like they’re the most important thing in the world. And Frank will be known as the friendliest guy in school.
Their third and final point that they make is that we should “pursue excellence, not excuses.” Too often, in our culture, we become comfortable with the way things are. An example Alex and Brett use in the book is the story of a high school girl. She did nothing in class but the bare minimum, but because she didn’t fool around in class and turned in her homework, she got the “celebration of excellence for leadership award” (Harris 101) this is a good example of our school’s low expectations. Just because you get rewarded for what you do always challenge yourself. Don’t be okay with the way things are, always push to be better.
Teenagers can be world-changers if they would step out of the mold society has built for them, and pursue the best they can be. There are teens all over the nation who have already started to change their level of expectations. And it’s about time we jump on board with them. It’s quite humorous to me that many professionals tell parents of teenagers that their kids are not responsible or capable or dependable, so just deal with them the best you can while you have them, and when they become adults, that’s when they will change the world. The stories of David, Clara, and George are good lessons that we should be learning from. Professionals may be educated, but they don’t seem to know what they are talking about. Teenagers are capable of achieving adult goals and raise their expectations. It’s been done in the past and it’s even going on today.
If you’re someone who wants to get involved try out these organizations:
Compassion international
Habitat for Humanity
World Vision
National center for Family Literacy
Big Brothers Big Sisters of America
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